Steve & Connick
If you’re sensitive, neurodivergent, or exhausted from trying to exist in a world that wasn’t built for you – cycles of overwhelm and burnout actually make perfect sense.
But most “nervous system regulation” tools actually reinforce these cycles instead of bringing lasting relief.
You need an entirely different approach.
The ANSEM™ Model will revolutionize how you work with your nervous system with less effort and less shame – so you can end the constant battle with yourself.
Your nervous system isn’t a project to fix… it’s a relationship to nurture.
Right now, you’re at war with the very part of you that’s trying to keep you safe. The part that won’t stop protecting you until it knows you’re truly okay.
I wonder if you can let that in for a moment? if you can allow yourself to be cared for that deeply… and relentlessly?
You’re probably spending more energy pretending to be okay than actually being okay. You may be totally wired, or burnt out – there’s no in-between. do you feel guilty sometimes for simply needing what you need to get through each day? you are exhausted because you feel like you’ve tried everything.
(By the way, ever notice how “tried” and “tired” are almost the same word? Just sayin’.)
When you’re working so hard to regulate, it’s easy to forget that regulation isn’t earned… it’s remembered.
it’s remembered through relationship.
the ∞actualinfinity Nervous System Experiencing Model
this is the model that helps you navigate relationship with your nervous system.
This isn’t another regulation technique or hierarchy. It’s a living map of your actual experience – designed to help you move with awareness instead of resistance.
This revolutionary model facilitates:
click the play button below to watch the 6 min overview
this is the model that helps you navigate relationship with your nervous system.
This isn’t another regulation technique or hierarchy. It’s a living map of your actual experience – designed to help you move with awareness instead of resistance.
This revolutionary model facilitates:
click the play button below to watch the 4 min overview
Steve
My joy is supporting sensitive, neurodivergent, and overwhelmed humans to stop fighting their nervous system and instead, learn how to be in healthy relationship with it.
I know this work because I’ve lived it. I’m a 53-year-old autistic gay man who survived extensive childhood sexual abuse, religious trauma, coming out as a gay man then losing all of my family / friends overnight, and years of addiction. I spent decades trying to escape and fix myself – chasing “normal” like it was something I could earn through enough effort.
That approach nearly killed me. More than once.
What saved me wasn’t another technique. It was learning to stop abandoning the parts of me that were trying desperately to keep me safe.
I created the ANSEM™ model because I needed it. Because every other approach told me my system was the problem. But my nervous system wasn’t broken – it was brilliantly doing exactly what it had been trained to do.
My special brand of magic is helping you compassionately navigate the nervous system challenges that trauma, neurodivergence, and chronic overwhelm present – in a way that honors your wholeness while creating actual, tangible change. I bring 20+ years of coaching experience and training in somatic trauma therapy, parts work, and nervous system science.
Here’s what I know: Your nervous system learned to protect you in response to relationship – the ways you were hurt, demanded of, or abandoned. Which means it also heals best in relationship.
You don’t need more techniques. You need companionship. You need to not be alone in this anymore. this is what we do together in The Village.
I’ll teach you the model.
the community will show you you’re not alone.
see you inside.
you are welcome to receive my weekly personal notes: from my heart to your nervous system