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nervous system

2025: A Year of Remembering—at the Speed of Truth

You’ve done the work—but what if the truth was never about fixing? Discover the quiet realization that changes everything: you're not broken. You were brilliant all along. Here’s what happens when you stop chasing and start remembering.

Quicksand & Netflix: Why Movement Advice Might Be Harmful (and what to do instead)

An exploration of why common advice to 'just move' during depression can be harmful, especially for neurodivergent people. Explains how nervous system states differ from moods and offers gentler alternatives that honor the body's protective responses.

I Hate (Most) Surprises

Could a simple ringtone transform how you experience unexpected calls? Discover how my autistic brain found unexpected peace in iOS 17's 'Unfold' tone, exploring the broader impact of surprises on neurodivergent lives and the small changes that bring big comfort.

Marketing on Black Friday is Meant To Disregulate You – Here’s How to Make Better Decisions

Ever felt your pulse quicken at a "LIMITED TIME OFFER"? Your brain is being hijacked. This article exposes how Black Friday marketing deliberately triggers your survival instincts to bypass rational decision-making. Learn practical strategies to recognize manipulation tactics and stay regulated while shopping, preserving both your wallet and wellbeing.

How to Courageously and Safely Request Feedback as a Highly Sensitive Person

Ever felt feedback like a dagger to your soul? For neurodivergent individuals, criticism can trigger profound pain. Discover precise strategies for requesting constructive feedback while protecting your sensitive nature. Learn to separate useful insights from mere opinions and transform vulnerability into strength.

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